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Mind Control : The Prologue to Success

Have you ever been addicted to anything? Smoking, drinking, caffeine, drugs, sex, love?

Have you ever tried quitting that addiction?

No matter how hard you push forward, there is something pulling you back. The sense of familiarly, the comfort in its warmth, the at home feeling in its doing.

You know the light at the tunnel will be better for you, but it seems so far and so desolate, the path so uncomfortable and so unfamiliar.

Every time you partake in the addiction, it brings you back to feeling safe, but once the seconds of comfort fades, you realize how desperate you need to break that habit. For your time grows short and you know history will soon sweep you under the rugs of the forgotten, unless you break these chains. These chains of failure.

Failure is an addiction. It is the path of least resistance. The path to victory is uncomfortable, it forces us to grow, forces us to change, and forces us to reprogram our minds.

That nagging voice in the back of our heads that begs us to stay within the realms of familiarity, that is our subconscious.

Programmed since childhood, programmed by our environment, our elders, our experiences.

Some say all men are created equal, we all have the same ability, potential, I agree. What we do not have however, is the same subconscious programming.

We wonder how some people have the drive they do, how they accomplish things others couldn’t even dream of dreaming about.

Thus lies within our master program. Thus lies within our subconscious.

The good thing is, like any good computer, our operating system can be upgraded, reformed, polished, and repurposed.

We can take control of the mind, and reprogram it to drive us for success, even while we are unconscious of its efforts, even while we sleep!

Ever had something you were working on, a question, or a problem you were trying to solve. You thought long and hard about the solution but nothing, and then randomly whilst you were doing something totally different. Bam! The answer came to you.

Amazing isn’t it? Our subconscious continues to process any thought or thought process given to it. Amazing yes, but can be destructive to our well being, if left lingering on negative thinking. Working 1000 times as much as our active thoughts, it’s like putting a 9 year old behind the wheel of 1000 horse power vehicle, and telling him “have fun!”

So the big question is, how do we change our programming?

There is no easy answer to this question. Before we can even begin to rewrite the code, we need to understand some basics of how the operating system works.

There is allot of things we do today, or allot of thoughts we have, that we have no idea why we do or have them. Whether it’s something that slipped by us unconsciously, or something programmed into us by the environment (media, friends, anything exposed to).

There are many many articles and books about the subconscious mind, the differences between the conscious mind, and how it all connects. Marketing and media specialist know these things, they know how to bypass your active defenses or believe systems and get right to your subconscious. I urge you to at least know how to direct your own sails, how to understand your own master program. To begin that process I will share what I’ve learned.

The Conscious mind.
The actively thinking mind, intellectual mind, educated mind.

The Subconscious mind.
The automatic mind, the supercomputer, the master program, controller of our body functions, our emotions, and reflexes.

Naturally the subconscious mind is much much more powerful than our active thinking, egotistic, prideful, will power driven, conscious mind. And until you get it onboard with what you are trying to accomplish, the battle will be a steep incline upwards.

Fortunately for us, the subconscious runs with whatever the conscious mind commands it to do.

So here are a few quick steps on how to align your subconscious with what you want to consciously achieve.

Step 1. Trust your subconscious. It is a powerful hyper thinking machine at our disposal, it reminds us of our non negotiables, and provides wisdom to the things we are resisting. Learn to listen to it. Find time to be quite and actively try to understand what this super computer is doing.

Step 2. Get specific with what you want. Interview the subconscious, it’s a far more intelligent version of you than you think you are. Find out the details of what’s holding you back, and what you gain or lose from moving forward.

Step 3. Make a promise, make a commitment. You want your subconscious on your side, you need to work with it and not against it. What ever it is that’s down the path of success that you fear, if it is something you will not sacrifice, then make a promise to yourself. If becoming successful means “less time with my friends” or “less freedom to do _____” then I will not continue. By doing this we can be more open to the idea of pushing forward.

Step 4. Surround yourself with success stories. Find people that have gone down that path before, we must convince the subconscious that it is possible, and give it something to work towards. If we truly believe we can do great things, so will our subconscious. Visualization is a great tool for becoming more familiar with successful feelings.
Step 5. Reaffirm. Constantly remind yourself of the end result. How it will feel when you get there, the promise you made to yourself. Have something to remind you to do this whenever it is comfortable. Right before bed or right after workout or meditation are good times to access the subconscious.

We have just scratched the surface of understanding and reprogramming the subconscious to be onboard with what we are aiming to accomplish, but I hope this provides some insight or at least got you interested in learning more. I know I am definitely going to be researching and pushing to master my personal supercomputer, and I hope you all do the same!

Until next time friends!

Andre Taylor

~Born for Greatness, Live to Become Legendary!~

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You blink.. And it’s too late…

Y2k….. PS2..Wikipedia… 9/11….iPod….. Facebook…..First black president… Smartphones…Tablets…  The list goes on..

It’s been a lifetime worth of changes.. all within a few moments. Some people theorize that time isn’t chronological…… That it’s happening all at once, and our perception puts it in order…

Who am I to argue? And since I’m not one of the Time lords from Dr. Who, I can only see it like I see it.

One thing I will agree on, it’s all happening pretty damn fast! A few breaths ago it was Christmas 2013, and a blink ago it was new years 2014.. and now we are almost half way through February!

Some of us can look back, stand proud, look at our experiences and all the things accomplished, and say.. “It is good! It is worthy of my legacy!” some of us can’t….

Caught between the day to day of making money, paying bills, seeking human touch, and keeping ourselves entertained or sane, we lose ourselves in the void. And when we find ourselves in the sands of time.. age has had it’s way with us.. Dreams broken… strength faded… drive extinguished… and the last bit of energy remaining, only enough to try and direct our younger generation away from the black hole..

So here we are in the forever ending cycle of doom… What are you going to do about it? When is now the time to break the cycle? When do we take a stand against the constant demotivate that happens around us. When do we direct the sails? Load the missiles of willpower and launch them towards destiny?

The answer lies within you.

It is easy to fail. It is easy to listen to the media, follow the trends… What’s not easy is to take control..

We occasionally get a glimpse of greatness, the Olympics, YouTube, movies…. The human mind and body is capable of things beyond anything we can imagine.

“That’s true…. but I can’t do that…. I can’t do aerobics while suspended from an airplane.. Or I can’t glide through the air with nothing but a pair of skies beneath me…. I can’t…………”

“If you say you can, or you can’t,  either way you are right” Henry Ford.

“K…. So maybe I can…. I know what I want to accomplish, but it seems so far away…. How do I get to that version of me on the timeline?”

Work at it! Every Single Day! Little by Little! Inch by Inch!

“You don’t pay the price for success- you pay the price for failure. You enjoy the benefits of success.”- Zig Ziglar

The Steve Jobs and Bill Gates of this world didn’t get there overnight, before the world even knew they existed, they worked tirelessly towards their goal. Look how many lives they have enriched in the last decade..

So Quick tips on how to take your life off Fast Forward and get the most out of everyday.

1. Press the Pause button!

Set an alarm, or put a post it note somewhere you will see, take the time to stop what you are doing at different times throughout the day, disengage autopilot and think!

Am I on track? What else could I be doing to work towards my goal at this moment?  How many things on my daily task list have I accomplished?

Take time to refocus on what you want out of that day, then get back at it. We at times lose ourselves, so set up signs to remember where you are and where you want to go.

2.Speaking of that Daily Task List, do you have one? If not make one!

What do you want to get out of today? What specifically are you going to accomplish that will get you one inch closer to your goal?

Make of list of these things and commit to sticking to them, and soon you will be getting months of work out of your short weeks!

3. Before going to sleep, Reflect on your day. Was there anything I could have done differently? Where is my time going to be best spent tomorrow?

Slow down the speeding days and pinpoint where you are, and where you want to be tomorrow.

4. Find a few Accountability Partners.

Sometimes you need a fresh perspective on your daily activities, or just the need to share struggles, or some additional motivating energy.

No matter how strong you are, you can’t make it alone. Have someone to help push you when you need it, and listen when you want a friendly voice. This isn’t always the easiest thing to find, but accountability partners will allow you to excel that much quicker! (I could use a few myself! lol)

5. Focus!

If you read my post previous post Relationships:The Secret formula you would have already seen this line.

Focus on the good things and the negative ones will seamlessly fall away.

Or the Perception is Reality peace from Bam! Life Happened!

What ever it is we highlight throughout our day is what is going to stand out and grow.

Focus on the wins not the losses. We can find 1 million reasons why we can’t be successful, But all it takes is one good reason for success and the willpower and guts to do it.

Focusing on the wins will give us those small victories we need daily, to keep us moving forward!

A few moments from now we will be looking back on 2014 and all the amazing things that will happen. Let your story be one of those things! Slow down the days, inch towards your goals, remember to remember, and by years end your victory will overshadow all of society’s failures!

Till next time friends.

Andre Taylor

~Born for Greatness! Live to become Legendary!~

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The most difficult, as well as most significant thing you will ever do!

Have you ever had that dream, that felt so real and was so awesome, that after you wake up, you close your eyes and desperately try to go back! I have! Whether it was finding a bag of money, or finally driving your dream car, or finding a collection of all the games you ever wanted, or hanging out with the person of your dreams, with love glistening in the air. It is all crushed by the sound of that DAMN ALARM CLOCK!! You lay back down and try to hang on to the fading glimmer of light leading back into the memory of it, but it fades, the picture get’s blurry, and soon you can’t even remember it…

Sadly this doesn’t just happen at 7:30 AM in the morning. It happens all around us.

Remember when you were a kid, what you dreamt of doing when you grew up? I do, I wanted to be a Fighter Pilot! I wanted to be behind the Joystick with 7 tons of steal, flying through the air faster than the speed of sound, and blasting my way through waves of bad guys, with my lightning fast reflexes.

Then at about 16 my dream was to become a millionaire by 25, running my own company with my beautiful wife as Co-Owner, and having a marvelous life.

Well as the alarm clock AKA everyday life goes off around me, that all became faded memory.

So here I am, about to turn 27, titanic goals, the dream to become legendary, and mark my place in the history of mankind.

What’s different?

Well not much really, I am still a dreamer, but I have attained some of the knowledge and experience to make the toughest decision I will ever make. To do the most significant thing I will ever do.

MAKE A COMMITMENT! 

Anyone that have ever been married will probably hold testament that when they stand up at the podium, and make those vows, that it changed their lives.

The single most devastating thing people don’t do is commit to reaching their goals. It’s almost the end of January and probably about 80% of the people that made new years resolutions, have already forgot about them.

Until we are 100% committed to reaching our dreams, we will never even get close to even see the glimmer of them.

Take a look at this adaptation of something we have all Heard before, And if you are serious, say it with your name and your goal.

I will be the first to Commit, and it is here in writing!

I, (Your Name)__Andre Taylor__  Commit to achieving the Goals of  (Your Dreams)_Writing my trilogy & Traveling the world_ to be my focus, to work on and strive for from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until their completion (or as long as I live).

“Well so what?” you ask, “you are committed now what?”

Well now you have to also commit your everyday actions towards them. Dreams are only words until you begin to inch towards them day by day. A football player can tell you that one inch can make the difference between winning or losing a Superbowl!

Well every action you take daily will determine the achievement or faded memory of your dreams.

See my early post on how to break down those big dreams into little chunks so you can tackle it everyday in smaller portions.

Nemesis : P.2 of Breaking down barriers and understanding your true potential!

And as promise I will be writing my next post on Slowing down the years, and getting the most out of our days. I wanted to share these thoughts before I finished that one, Specifically because I also needed to commit to writing more, and making my blogs more frequent!

Thanks for reading all, Also feel free to send me suggestions on other topics you would like to learn more about.

Let’s start taking our Goals seriously, make the Commitment, and the path to reaching  them will reveal itself as we inch towards it!

Until next time friends!

Andre Taylor

~Born for Greatness! Live to become Legendary!~

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Relationships : The secret formula

This has been a topic I have wanted to write about for some time now. I recommend that everyone reads this blog at least 10 times! (including myself) This way we can all learn and grow together.

I’m going to skip the story telling this time and dive right into the content.

Before we can even scratch the surface of this topic, let’s take a look at how it works.

To preference, this can apply to any relationship in your life, whether intimate, family, professional, or friendship. For the purpose of this blog we will focus on the intimate driven ones.

 Common Formula :

Two people meet, and they begin to learn about each other. As they focus on the things they like about that person, whether it’s physical, occupational, intellectual, whatever that may be, they begin to become more and more attracted to that person. As they become attracted, through continuous interaction, they fall in love and everything is awesome! Some time goes by, and the amazing things they love about the person become less apparent as the annoying things start to rise and take their place. Soon the focus shifts towards the things they can’t stand about the person and the feeling of warmth and love turns to resentment and annoyance. It then inevitably crashes into a wall, as the two decides it’s no longer going to work and it’s time to move on.

Unfortunately this is a cycle that many people go through, over and over and over again, through their entire lives!

This formula can be easily altered by communication, and alteration. However it is a challenge to communicate most of the times, and you shouldn’t have to alter who you are to make someone else happy, (meet them half way, yes when it applies, but no changing who you are)

So let’s get into what I really want to talk about, let’s break down relationships into a few segments and find out how this “secret formula” works.

1. Meeting the right person.

2. Establishing the right foundation.

3. Working through the tough times TOGETHER.

4. Keeping it fresh!

#1 Meeting the right person

Many relationships are doomed for failure before they even start, and allot of times we know it, but hell let’s just have some fun right?

I’m going to further break this down into sub segments.

1A. Relationship Social Value

This is the underlying thing we all think about, but no one ever explains.

Think of it like this:

At your job who would you rather have a conversation with the person who is always late, and always do a crappy job or the owner of the company?

At the bar, the attractive person over on the other side, making all his/her  friends laugh or the miserable looking person drinking him/herself to oblivion.

I can bet 9 out of 10 people chose the owner and the attractive person.

Why? Every conversation or interaction has an underlying value, and you are either taking away or adding to it. A wealthy business man feels like he looses value when he talks to a drunk bum on the street (and actual value if he gives in and gives him some cash), however put a super hot model in front of him and even though she might be just as broke as the bum or even less intelligent he feels like he’s gaining value. Why? Because having a beautiful woman at his side, makes him look more intelligent, wealthier, funnier, more handsome, more seducing, or whatever else our perception tells us about him.

By now this is probably starting to make more sense. There are a few books out there that explains it a little better, I can’t for the life of me think of them at the moment but they are out there! lol

I say all this to give one point. Understanding where you are on the social value chain, will help you meet better matches. Look at yourself in the mirror, think about how smart you are, how well you dress, the size of your bank account(yes it matters), your conversational skills, and then give yourself a FAIR rating. Once you have done that, then pursue the people who are closer to you (a little bit higher) on that scale and you will most likely have better relationships. Aim too high and you will probably have your feelings hurt, too low and you will always feel like you can do better.

With all that said, don’t cut yourself short, you don’t have to be a 10 physically to be rated highly, you are combination of many things, let your strengths lead the way!

1.B Align yourself correctly.

This could be a huge topic itself, but I will summarize.

Most likely if you are doing the things you love to do (even if it’s by yourself) you will also meet people who are doing the things they love to do, o look! you like what I like! Love at first sight!

As much as you want to meet and be with that awesome person, if you haven’t created the space for them, they cant fit in…. So if you are a workaholic, if you walk down the sidewalk with your face glued to your smartphone, if you stay inside all day on your days off. Guess who you AREN”T going to meet? You guessed it! that awesome person you been wanting to.

Be who and where you wan’t to be and the universe will bring the person you want to have into your life. (I’m taking notes on this part) lol

On to #2  Establishing the right foundation.

This is where most people make a mistake, sometimes we floor the gas pedal and forget to slow down the interaction and “really” get to know each other. I’ve been guilty (you know it’s hard to think, when you are wearing that skirt! lol)

If a relationship was founded on, or built on sex, guess what happens after the sex high wears off? probably not a whole lot of anything.

I’ve often hear long time couples say, their wife/husband is their best friend. I got a best friend I joke with all the time, I tell her I’m going to steal her away from her boyfriend. (who knows ‘evil smirk’ I still might lol)  It’s a wonderful thing when you can talk to your mate about anything. When you can share all the horrors and delights of your life with them. It makes every interaction you have that much better. Here is a tip, try to find a best friend that you are attracted to (just don’t do the whole friend zone thing) And you will probably find your life long co adventurer! If you are already in a relationship, slow it down and learn more about that person, what makes them happy, what makes them excited, and share yours with them.

3. Working through the tough times TOGETHER.

“Where ever attention goes…. it GROWS..”

Tough time’s can be created internally or influenced externally. The external ones require holding each others hands and pushing through! The external ones comes from all angles, money, society, weather, etc etc. It should be a me and you vs the universe if it comes down to it, mentality that you have with your mate.

Few quick point outs.

Stop listening to everyone else about YOUR relationship.

Stop airing out your dirty laundry with them, I know, I know you need to vent, cool, vent without the details…..It’s hard to go back to your friend and say, “O I was wrong about what I complained about last night, I realized I was just overreacting, and that he’s an awesome boyfriend” 10 hours after you told them how much of an ass he is.  Along with the fact that most of your friends are only going to agree with you, and side with you, when you are auto piloting into an emotional response.  There are a few people out there (like myself) that will tell you like it is. However we are rare :)

Now the ones that are created internally comes from focus. Back to the quote above, What ever you focus on or show appreciation for will become more apparent and grow. So if you are always telling your mate how angry you make them when they do this, or how disappointing you are when they don’t do that. You are highlighting it red and pinning it onto your fridge, well guess what you are going to see whenever you walk into the kitchen.. how long will you put up with that sight before you take it down?

Now lets flip that analogy, what if it’s pictures of the vacation they took you on, or that tour, or that dinner, or how they always make you smile by doing this, or how thoughtful they are when they don’t do that. How much more warmth do you feel? Every man or woman wan’ts to do more when they know the person on the other end is overjoyed and feel loved because of it.

Focus on the good things and the negative ones will seamlessly fall away. 

People normally take the path of least resistance and if they have someone that makes them happy, who continually do things to make them smile, all the other suitors will fade into the background, and they will focus more on reciprocating.

4. Keeping it fresh!

I often tell my married friends to take some time away from the kids every now and then, and have some husband and wife time. Kids are awesome, yes. However being a mommy and daddy can sometimes cloud the image of being a husband and wife. It is important to continually build the marriage while building the family.

Same thing applies to any relationship, taking time away from the world to call that old buddy, hang out with that cousin, chat with that parent. Whatever that interaction may be, it helps to grow and reestablish that awesome friendship you had to begin with

Relationships are like a trees, you plant the seeds, water them, nurture them, help them to grow, and you will continually benefit from their  fruit as they branch out and become a centerpiece of your lovely home. (I know… I need to water a few of my trees lol )

To Conclude, remember to align yourself with the right people, be in the right environment to meet those people, focus on the great things they bring to the table, then keep it fresh by spending time with them.

On this crazy planet we call home, it is important to focus on the people and relationships that makes us happy. It is also important to eliminate the ones that don’t. It is after all a two way street, and if all that person does is nag and complain despite your focus, maybe it’s time to let that tree lose a few leaves.

With all that said I hope this post can remind us on how to establish and develop those awesome relationships.

I hope everyone had a great time celebrating the holidays, and stay tuned for my next post, it will be focused on slowing down the years and getting the most out of your days.

Happy Holidays all, and Enjoy the new year celebration!

Till next time friends.

Andre Taylor

~Born for Greatness! Live to become Legendary!~

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Momentum – That First Spark!

Sitting at the top of the mountain you can see the lift come to a stop. “Only one way down now” you chuckle to yourself as you look down at the course you have conquered so many times. You glance at your phone one last time. 5% battery life, “I’ll be at the button in 10 mins and home in another 45″ as the thought echoes through your mind, you make sure everything is secured and push off to begin your course. Your board cut through the course like a hot knife, you even manage to do a few tricks, as the dim light of the sun glares off the shiny edged of your board. About half way through the course the unthinkable happens. It happened so fast, that it leaves you puzzled as to how. Your eyes slowly open and the last thing you remembered was a feeling of something snagging onto your board, and your body ,tumbling downwards. As you regain your bearings you try to stand up. “Luckily nothing feels broken you think to yourself.” You unstrap your board and begin to walk it off, you then realized something, you have no idea what direction is which or where you were. “The heck! I know this place like the back of my hands, I can’t be lost!” You quickly grab your phone which now seems fully dead. You stick it inside your jacket to warm it up, a few minutes later you manage to get it turned on and dial your best friends number. “Hey I think I’m in trouble, about half way..” Bzzzz the phone vibrates as it goes black again. Almost wanting to launch it into the snow jam it back into your pocket. Looking around you manage to gather a few small branches. “I need to get a fire going” quickly thinking you begin to rub these branches together. Pulling a dollar from your wallet you rip it into a few pieces and drop it around the edge of the wood. An hour goes by and as your hand start to become fatigue you stare at the nice arrangement of wood below you with not even one spark between them. You lay back slowly feeling defeated. It was then you made the toughest decision of your life. Do I continue to mindlessly rub this wood together, or do I just lay here and hope that my eyes reopen in the morning.. As your body temperature begins to slowly fall, the choice becomes even more difficult, you imagine yourself home in your warm bed and wish that you would have just skipped this last run. You spring back upwards “I’m not letting the cold take me!” You grab the piece of wood, inhale the ice cold air, and begin to rub them together once more. 20 minutes went by, but it felt like an hour. That’s when the first spark erupted from the wood and ignited your hopes. It took several sparks to get the fire going but that first one was all it took to keep you going.

You tell this story over dinner to your friends several years later, as you show them the quote now tattooed onto your arm.

“Success is not a result of spontaneous combustion, you must set yourself on fire!”

Momentum. What that means to me is the biggest objects or goals is going to take the most energy to get moving, however once it has been set in motion (in this case the spark that started the fire, that saved your life) it’s usually really hard to stop.

Most of us have pretty big dreams (I would assume everyone reading this) we at times set lofty goals. The hardest thing to do though is to create that momentum. Put the car in drive, raise the sails, take that first step. A hundred times over we tell ourselves, I’m going to make it! I’m going to have the life I dream about. We even plan, and strategize. That first step towards it however, feels like pulling your feet out of a cemented block.

It’s something we all struggle with, life is relentless as it continually gives us alternate pathways which seems so much easier than climbing Mount Everest. And sometimes we only push upward when we have no choice but to, which by then is too late and the push upwards is much, much, much, more difficult.

Few quick take always.

Action creates motivation.
Allot of people feel they need to be motivated in order to start taking action, it’s actually the other way around. Once you start taking action you will be motivated to get to the destination. If you wait to be motivated first, chances are you won’t take the action that will ignite that fire.

Motivation creates energy.
Once the Action is taken and you are motivated to get to the destination, the energy will be generated to get there.

Success creates success.
Once you have discovered your true potential, you will move on to do bigger, and bigger things.

It all starts with you.
This whole process goes nowhere until you take that first big step, and you won’t take that step until you decide to.

I woke up today and decided I am going to write for a few minutes and this was the result.

What are you going to decide to do today?

Andre Taylor
~Born for Greatness, Live to become Legendary!~

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Bam! Life Happened!

Ok so you have been single for while (couples use your imagination here for me lol) you finally met someone who just perfectly aligns with you. You chatted a little and decided to go out for the first time for dinner. It’s Saturday your date is set for 8PM and you got a few hours to burn in between. So you get the hair cut/done you get your cloths all prepped and ready, you pull up the place in your gps so you know it only takes 20 minutes to get there. The awesome date mentioned that they been stood up before and it’s one of the things they hate the most, so to be mindful you plan to get there a minute or two early. Ok the times has arrived, you get dressed, put on your cloths, triple check yourself in the mirror and begin to drive. You get on the highway, traffic is flowing smoothly, and then Bam! it happens.

As you go around a bend, brake lights eclipse the highway. As far as the eye can see, cars are at a complete stop, and even a few people are outside of their cars. As you slam your brakes barely stopping in time, you quickly look in the rear view to make sure you don’t get rare ended. As they stop just in time, you once again look down the line of cars. “No no no no no…” You say to yourself. Quicky grabbing your phone you go to call history and dial their name. You put the phone to your ears only to hear a beeping tone. “The heck”you glance back down at the screen, no signal. “Got to be kidding me!” You glance at the cars next to you, quickly putting down your window, you signal them to do the same and then yell “excuse me, do you have any signal?” You wave your phone around to signal what you meant. The driver next to you grabs their phone from their pocket and nods their head signaling no. “Really!” You think to yourself, “A dead zone still existing in 2013! And I happen to be in the center of it! No ones going to believe this..” As you sit there, time and the perfect relationship you carved out in your mind just begins to slowly drift away. You then begin to think to yourself “Maybe it wasn’t meant to be, this has to be a sign!” When traffic finally gives up you slowly drive by the meeting place, shamelessly hoping the person already left, and they have.

We can all agree that life throw curve balls at us, heck even a few bricks. Just when everything seems to be getting back on track, another thing comes crashing into our lives. Anything from bills, car trouble, layoffs, family, friends, you name it, it can happen, and at the worst possible time.

The phrase “Life is defined not by what happens to you, but how you react to it!” Comes to mind. There is going to be allot of things that takes us off course of archiving our goals, and the crazy part is most of the time we aren’t even aware of it! Flying through life on autopilot, we at times just unconsciously react to most circumstances and events, and most of the time the habitual response isn’t aligned with our goals.

With all that said, here are a few things I’ve picked up over the years to help stay on course.

1.Pain is temporary

No matter how crazy the situation, 98% of the time it is temporary. I live a pretty stress free lifestyle, and here is why: I control the things I can, and the things that are out of my control, I don’t put energy in to. I acknowledge that it’s there, or that it has happened, and then I push forward. It’s no use dwelling on the rain, or the lack of sunlight. Most of the time uncontrollable things only last for a while anyway.

2.Take Control!

Regardless of where you are now or were you came from, you have the ability to decide where you want to be a minute from now, an hour, tomorrow, next week and so on. Disengage auto pilot and grab the control stick! This spaceship of life will go anywhere you direct it.

3. Ride the waves and not the currents!

This idea came to me while driving to work, there are so many “moments of opportunities” on the road that for most people the drive alone to work can define their day.

Moments of opportunities: The moment in which you have the opportunity to react positively to an event, in which you would normally react negatively towards.

Yeah those moments! people cutting you off, slow person in the fast lane, yep all of those. Negative interactions can be like a current, quickly sweeping you to immanent doom. Recognize this reaction, and break away from that current.

On to riding the waves, if you have ever seen a surfer attacking those giant waves, elegantly cutting through its monstrous curves, you will probably observe something. He or she is on top of the world within that moment! The heightened senses and chemicals running through the bloodstream creates a natural high, and surfers will work at it night and day in preparation, just to be able to ride that wave as long as they possibly can.

Be a life surfer! when you are having a beautiful day, or that awesome interaction, you ride that wave until it’s humanly possible not to. Keep the smile going, think back to it a few hours later, and smile again! You wont always remember what was said or done, but you will remember how you feel. Carry that joy with you, share it, take a picture, record a video, and ride that wave!

4. Don’t take it personal.

Most of the time people have positive intentions, and most of the time, your perception of what they say or do when it comes to sharing criticism towards you, will not be as positive. It’s not entirely their fault. It’s actually a developed skill to be able to give both impactful and positive advice or criticism and not many people master this. When ever someone provide feedback, listen to them, assume positive intent and Chose (keyword) what you accept and adopt. Don’t just autopilot into an emotional response or judgement.

Same thing when crazy things happens to you, don’t take it personal, acknowledge, learn what lessons you can and then keep it moving.

5. Lead, don’t follow.

Going back to the driving analogy, when you have the open road in front of you, you then control the speed at which drive at, however if you are behind someone, then you can only go as fast as the car in front of you. If you drive like I do, then you might also be obsessed with the open road. Pace cars, as I call them will only slow you down. There are small occasions in which you drive behind someone who is going at just the right speeds, breaks at the right moments and just seem one with the road, in these cases I don’t mind following, in these same rare occasions you will find mentors in life who is heading in the direction in which you are wishing to travel. Learn as much as you can from these people, and when the open road presents itself, feel free to press that gas pedal.

6. Perception is reality

You have probably heard this phrased tossed around countless times, what does it mean to you?

Let’s take a step back and think about an abstract painting, so you see this painting, and to you it looks like a boy throwing a ball. Every time you see that painting your think “O there is that painting of the boy throwing the ball” then one day someone overhears you thinking out loud and they say “mmm I can see why you think that, but it’s actually an old man looking up at the moon. I know the painter and even though he gets allot of different opinions on what it is, he assures me It’s an old man looking up at the moon.” “o wow” you say to yourself as the picture in front of you transforms from a boy throwing a ball to an old man looking up at the moon. “I see it now!”

Life works the exact same way, the way we view people or events, makes them real, from our specific perception. Regardless of what or who they are, the way they exist in our reality is the way we perceive them. And unless your perception is altered by introducing a new idea or more observation, it will remain as such in our experience.

With all this said, I challenge you all to take a step back and look at the painting of life from a different perspective, I challenge you to learn the lessons that might be within our “moments of opportunity” and I challenge you to have more “moments of opportunity” in contrast to annoying or painful ones. I also challenge you to more often challenge yourself. You will soon realize that as you learn and grow, you will intern become a more amazing version of you!

Till next time friends.

Andre Taylor

~Born for Greatness! Live to become Legendary!~

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Goals:Breaking the barriers

Nemesis : P.2 of Breaking down barriers and understanding your true potential!

Nemesis : the inescapable agent of someone’s or something’s downfall.

If asked what or who our biggest obstacle in life is, you may get a few different answers. I could go on for about 10 minutes about the different ones I’ve heard, but I’ll skip right ahead to the one which is most accurate.

You. The inescapable agent of your demise (sounds familiar?) OR the quarterback to your wining team. Lets be honest it’s really really, I mean really easy to be lazy! and procrastinate. It’s even fairly easy to listen, and take to heart the discouraging things people to say.

What’s not easy is taking the other route, rejecting discouraging opinions, waking up earlier, managing time more effectively, working harder, and learning more. Bettering ones self is a tough process! I know, I’ve been procrastinating on a few things that could potentially make me millions! I am however, working to change my habits, hold myself more accountable, and push forward.

The thing that will make or break us in the process of personal growth is our Habits.

Habit : routines of behavior that are repeated regularly and tend to occur subconsciously. 

Habits are what define our personality and behaviors, and the big word in that definition is “Subconsciously” When we develop a habit we begin to act or react without even thinking about it!

Think about this for a second, what if we develop good habits? How much less conscious work would we have to do? How much of our success would be assessed without thought? If you have ever read “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” you might remember something about developing great habits = success. Sounds like a simple formula right? Wrong!  :) we know its a tough, tough process to develop these habits! It’s like trying to wake up at 6 am and going for a morning run, everyday, after not being active for 3 years… TOUGH!

Tough yes, but not impossible, and with some dedication we can get there! So the question is, how do we form these great habits? This ties into my first post on Goals.

So lets sidestep for a second and look at a method in attaining a goal. Most of the things we need to accomplish them are right in front of us.

I’ll share with you a process I call “The Reverse Pathway”  It works by starting with the end goal, and asking yourself as many questions as you can, until you backtrack to where you are today. Let’s use the example of wanting a new TV.

Goal = New TV (to keep it short let’s say we saw a TV we liked online that cost $900)

Questions                                           Answers

How do I afford this?      Got to save some money.

How do I save more? Well I either work more hours or lower my overhead.

I cant work more, how do I  lower my overhead? Let’s see, I can stop going out as much, that extra $40 here and there can be saved.

How long is this going to take me to save up $900 with this process? Lets see, doing the math I can save a total of $120-160 a month if I eat out less. So 5.5 to 7.5 Months.

You get the basic Idea, using this process what have we learned? I eat out less, I will save more and have my brand new TV in a few months!  Excited yet? No? Wait till you pull that Flat screen out of the Box and turn it on for the first time! Much more memorable than that a few nice dinners right?

So now I have a brand new TV and we have developed this habit of saving money, mmm what to do next, maybe that vacation I always wanted to take!  Lets sit down figure out how much its going to cost and what I need to do to get there.  -repeat process-

We often find when we take a big goal and quantify it into smaller portions, it can make it much easier to attain. Instead of looking at the big $900 price tag and saying “I’m never going to have that much money just sitting around.” We figured out how to get there by asking ourselves questions, and breaking it down into monthly and or daily goals. And that $900 became $4 a day! That’s not a whole lot! Much easier number to work with.

Sit down and break down your big goals, and once you have it sitting in-front of you, with the guide, and tiny easy to do pieces, then work on creating those habits that incorporates theses little pieces.  Before long you will subconsciously be reaching new heights, and scoring the touchdowns in life you dream about.

Remember Habits are tough to form, they can take anywhere from 7 days to almost a whole year depending on what we are trying to tackle. The rewards however for forming good habits can be a lifelong experience!

Whether it’s a Healthy or wealthy habit, Pushing yourself now, will only make it easier later, so easy even that you might not have to even think about it! Think about that!

There are many awesome books out there to help us with this process, a quick search gave me these results.

http://www.amazon.com/Books-for-Developing-Good-Habits/lm/R27LCVLYDCD9J7

Grabbing a hardcover, digital, or audio version of a few of these books will be a big step in your personal development. And will for sure help us to break down some of those barriers.

The best way to get rid of a bad habit is to replace it with a good one.

Over the next few weeks I will be listening to the audio version of a few of these and sharing my findings with you. Feel free to follow my blog and together we will reach new heights!

As the weekend come to a close and Monday quickly approaching, Let’s get a good nights rest and be ready to tackle the upcoming week with that much more energy.

Until next time friends!

Andre Taylor

~Born for Greatness! Live to become Legendary!~

 

 

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