Nemesis : the inescapable agent of someone’s or something’s downfall.
If asked what or who our biggest obstacle in life is, you may get a few different answers. I could go on for about 10 minutes about the different ones I’ve heard, but I’ll skip right ahead to the one which is most accurate.
You. The inescapable agent of your demise (sounds familiar?) OR the quarterback to your wining team. Lets be honest it’s really really, I mean really easy to be lazy! and procrastinate. It’s even fairly easy to listen, and take to heart the discouraging things people to say.
What’s not easy is taking the other route, rejecting discouraging opinions, waking up earlier, managing time more effectively, working harder, and learning more. Bettering ones self is a tough process! I know, I’ve been procrastinating on a few things that could potentially make me millions! I am however, working to change my habits, hold myself more accountable, and push forward.
The thing that will make or break us in the process of personal growth is our Habits.
Habits are what define our personality and behaviors, and the big word in that definition is “Subconsciously” When we develop a habit we begin to act or react without even thinking about it!
Think about this for a second, what if we develop good habits? How much less conscious work would we have to do? How much of our success would be assessed without thought? If you have ever read “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” you might remember something about developing great habits = success. Sounds like a simple formula right? Wrong! 🙂 we know its a tough, tough process to develop these habits! It’s like trying to wake up at 6 am and going for a morning run, everyday, after not being active for 3 years… TOUGH!
Tough yes, but not impossible, and with some dedication we can get there! So the question is, how do we form these great habits? This ties into my first post on Goals.
So lets sidestep for a second and look at a method in attaining a goal. Most of the things we need to accomplish them are right in front of us.
I’ll share with you a process I call “The Reverse Pathway” It works by starting with the end goal, and asking yourself as many questions as you can, until you backtrack to where you are today. Let’s use the example of wanting a new TV.
Goal = New TV (to keep it short let’s say we saw a TV we liked online that cost $900)
How do I afford this? Got to save some money.
How do I save more? Well I either work more hours or lower my overhead.
I cant work more, how do I lower my overhead? Let’s see, I can stop going out as much, that extra $40 here and there can be saved.
How long is this going to take me to save up $900 with this process? Lets see, doing the math I can save a total of $120-160 a month if I eat out less. So 5.5 to 7.5 Months.
You get the basic Idea, using this process what have we learned? I eat out less, I will save more and have my brand new TV in a few months! Excited yet? No? Wait till you pull that Flat screen out of the Box and turn it on for the first time! Much more memorable than that a few nice dinners right?
So now I have a brand new TV and we have developed this habit of saving money, mmm what to do next, maybe that vacation I always wanted to take! Lets sit down figure out how much its going to cost and what I need to do to get there. -repeat process-
We often find when we take a big goal and quantify it into smaller portions, it can make it much easier to attain. Instead of looking at the big $900 price tag and saying “I’m never going to have that much money just sitting around.” We figured out how to get there by asking ourselves questions, and breaking it down into monthly and or daily goals. And that $900 became $4 a day! That’s not a whole lot! Much easier number to work with.
Sit down and break down your big goals, and once you have it sitting in-front of you, with the guide, and tiny easy to do pieces, then work on creating those habits that incorporates theses little pieces. Before long you will subconsciously be reaching new heights, and scoring the touchdowns in life you dream about.
Remember Habits are tough to form, they can take anywhere from 7 days to almost a whole year depending on what we are trying to tackle. The rewards however for forming good habits can be a lifelong experience!
Whether it’s a Healthy or wealthy habit, Pushing yourself now, will only make it easier later, so easy even that you might not have to even think about it! Think about that!
There are many awesome books out there to help us with this process, a quick search gave me these results.
Grabbing a hardcover, digital, or audio version of a few of these books will be a big step in your personal development. And will for sure help us to break down some of those barriers.
The best way to get rid of a bad habit is to replace it with a good one.
Over the next few weeks I will be listening to the audio version of a few of these and sharing my findings with you. Feel free to follow my blog and together we will reach new heights!
As the weekend come to a close and Monday quickly approaching, Let’s get a good nights rest and be ready to tackle the upcoming week with that much more energy.
Until next time friends!
~Born for Greatness! Live to become Legendary!~