Goals:Breaking the barriers

You blink.. And it’s too late…

Y2k….. PS2..Wikipedia… 9/11….iPod….. Facebook…..First black president… Smartphones…Tablets…  The list goes on..

It’s been a lifetime worth of changes.. all within a few moments. Some people theorize that time isn’t chronological…… That it’s happening all at once, and our perception puts it in order…

Who am I to argue? And since I’m not one of the Time lords from Dr. Who, I can only see it like I see it.

One thing I will agree on, it’s all happening pretty damn fast! A few breaths ago it was Christmas 2013, and a blink ago it was new years 2014.. and now we are almost half way through February!

Some of us can look back, stand proud, look at our experiences and all the things accomplished, and say.. “It is good! It is worthy of my legacy!” some of us can’t….

Caught between the day to day of making money, paying bills, seeking human touch, and keeping ourselves entertained or sane, we lose ourselves in the void. And when we find ourselves in the sands of time.. age has had it’s way with us.. Dreams broken… strength faded… drive extinguished… and the last bit of energy remaining, only enough to try and direct our younger generation away from the black hole..

So here we are in the forever ending cycle of doom… What are you going to do about it? When is now the time to break the cycle? When do we take a stand against the constant demotivation that happens around us. When do we direct the sails? Load the missiles of willpower and launch them towards destiny?

The answer lies within you.

It is easy to fail. It is easy to listen to the media, follow the trends… What’s not easy is to take control..

We occasionally get a glimpse of greatness, the Olympics, YouTube, movies…. The human mind and body is capable of things beyond anything we can imagine.

“That’s true…. but I can’t do that…. I can’t do aerobics while suspended from an airplane.. Or I can’t glide through the air with nothing but a pair of skies beneath me…. I can’t…………”

“If you say you can, or you can’t,  either way you are right” Henry Ford.

“K…. So maybe I can…. I know what I want to accomplish, but it seems so far away…. How do I get to that version of me on the timeline?”

Work at it! Every Single Day! Little by Little! Inch by Inch!

“You don’t pay the price for success- you pay the price for failure. You enjoy the benefits of success.”- Zig Ziglar

The Steve Jobs and Bill Gates of this world didn’t get there overnight, before the world even knew they existed, they worked tirelessly towards their goal. Look how many lives they have enriched in the last decade..

So Quick tips on how to take your life off Fast Forward and get the most out of everyday.

1. Press the Pause button!

Set an alarm, or put a post it note somewhere you will see, take the time to stop what you are doing at different times throughout the day, disengage autopilot and think!

Am I on track? What else could I be doing to work towards my goal at this moment?  How many things on my daily task list have I accomplished?

Take time to refocus on what you want out of that day, then get back at it. We at times lose ourselves, so set up signs to remember where you are and where you want to go.

2.Speaking of that Daily Task List, do you have one? If not make one!

What do you want to get out of today? What specifically are you going to accomplish that will get you one inch closer to your goal?

Make of list of these things and commit to sticking to them, and soon you will be getting months of work out of your short weeks!

3. Before going to sleep, Reflect on your day. Was there anything I could have done differently? Where is my time going to be best spent tomorrow?

Slow down the speeding days and pinpoint where you are, and where you want to be tomorrow.

4. Find a few Accountability Partners.

Sometimes you need a fresh perspective on your daily activities, or just the need to share struggles, or some additional motivating energy.

No matter how strong you are, you can’t make it alone. Have someone to help push you when you need it, and listen when you want a friendly voice. This isn’t always the easiest thing to find, but accountability partners will allow you to excel that much quicker! (I could use a few myself! lol)

5. Focus!

If you read my post previous post Relationships:The Secret formula you would have already seen this line.

Focus on the good things and the negative ones will seamlessly fall away.

Or the Perception is Reality peace from Bam! Life Happened!

What ever it is we highlight throughout our day is what is going to stand out and grow.

Focus on the wins not the losses. We can find 1 million reasons why we can’t be successful, But all it takes is one good reason for success and the willpower and guts to do it.

Focusing on the wins will give us those small victories we need daily, to keep us moving forward!

A few moments from now we will be looking back on 2014 and all the amazing things that will happen. Let your story be one of those things! Slow down the days, inch towards your goals, remember to remember, and by years end your victory will overshadow all of society’s failures!

Till next time friends.

Andre Taylor

~Born for Greatness! Live to become Legendary!~

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Goals:Breaking the barriers

Nemesis : P.2 of Breaking down barriers and understanding your true potential!

Nemesis : the inescapable agent of someone’s or something’s downfall.

If asked what or who our biggest obstacle in life is, you may get a few different answers. I could go on for about 10 minutes about the different ones I’ve heard, but I’ll skip right ahead to the one which is most accurate.

You. The inescapable agent of your demise (sounds familiar?) OR the quarterback to your wining team. Lets be honest it’s really really, I mean really easy to be lazy! and procrastinate. It’s even fairly easy to listen, and take to heart the discouraging things people to say.

What’s not easy is taking the other route, rejecting discouraging opinions, waking up earlier, managing time more effectively, working harder, and learning more. Bettering ones self is a tough process! I know, I’ve been procrastinating on a few things that could potentially make me millions! I am however, working to change my habits, hold myself more accountable, and push forward.

The thing that will make or break us in the process of personal growth is our Habits.

Habit : routines of behavior that are repeated regularly and tend to occur subconsciously. 

Habits are what define our personality and behaviors, and the big word in that definition is “Subconsciously” When we develop a habit we begin to act or react without even thinking about it!

Think about this for a second, what if we develop good habits? How much less conscious work would we have to do? How much of our success would be assessed without thought? If you have ever read “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” you might remember something about developing great habits = success. Sounds like a simple formula right? Wrong!  🙂 we know its a tough, tough process to develop these habits! It’s like trying to wake up at 6 am and going for a morning run, everyday, after not being active for 3 years… TOUGH!

Tough yes, but not impossible, and with some dedication we can get there! So the question is, how do we form these great habits? This ties into my first post on Goals.

So lets sidestep for a second and look at a method in attaining a goal. Most of the things we need to accomplish them are right in front of us.

I’ll share with you a process I call “The Reverse Pathway”  It works by starting with the end goal, and asking yourself as many questions as you can, until you backtrack to where you are today. Let’s use the example of wanting a new TV.

Goal = New TV (to keep it short let’s say we saw a TV we liked online that cost $900)

Questions                                           Answers

How do I afford this?      Got to save some money.

How do I save more? Well I either work more hours or lower my overhead.

I cant work more, how do I  lower my overhead? Let’s see, I can stop going out as much, that extra $40 here and there can be saved.

How long is this going to take me to save up $900 with this process? Lets see, doing the math I can save a total of $120-160 a month if I eat out less. So 5.5 to 7.5 Months.

You get the basic Idea, using this process what have we learned? I eat out less, I will save more and have my brand new TV in a few months!  Excited yet? No? Wait till you pull that Flat screen out of the Box and turn it on for the first time! Much more memorable than that a few nice dinners right?

So now I have a brand new TV and we have developed this habit of saving money, mmm what to do next, maybe that vacation I always wanted to take!  Lets sit down figure out how much its going to cost and what I need to do to get there.  -repeat process-

We often find when we take a big goal and quantify it into smaller portions, it can make it much easier to attain. Instead of looking at the big $900 price tag and saying “I’m never going to have that much money just sitting around.” We figured out how to get there by asking ourselves questions, and breaking it down into monthly and or daily goals. And that $900 became $4 a day! That’s not a whole lot! Much easier number to work with.

Sit down and break down your big goals, and once you have it sitting in-front of you, with the guide, and tiny easy to do pieces, then work on creating those habits that incorporates theses little pieces.  Before long you will subconsciously be reaching new heights, and scoring the touchdowns in life you dream about.

Remember Habits are tough to form, they can take anywhere from 7 days to almost a whole year depending on what we are trying to tackle. The rewards however for forming good habits can be a lifelong experience!

Whether it’s a Healthy or wealthy habit, Pushing yourself now, will only make it easier later, so easy even that you might not have to even think about it! Think about that!

There are many awesome books out there to help us with this process, a quick search gave me these results.

http://www.amazon.com/Books-for-Developing-Good-Habits/lm/R27LCVLYDCD9J7

Grabbing a hardcover, digital, or audio version of a few of these books will be a big step in your personal development. And will for sure help us to break down some of those barriers.

The best way to get rid of a bad habit is to replace it with a good one.

Over the next few weeks I will be listening to the audio version of a few of these and sharing my findings with you. Feel free to follow my blog and together we will reach new heights!

As the weekend come to a close and Monday quickly approaching, Let’s get a good nights rest and be ready to tackle the upcoming week with that much more energy.

Until next time friends!

Andre Taylor

~Born for Greatness! Live to become Legendary!~

 

 

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